The other day I had been to a local market and I met many people. Some I knew and some I didn't but ended up having conversation with many. I also met my professor who had taught me English in my Junior College. We talked about many this like how much I miss my old college and how much fun I used to have, how much I missed his shayaris and stories during his lectures, also about my little brother whom he teaches right now. He gave me inspiration and told stories about it. I was elated on meeting him and you have a great feeling when a teacher recognizes you in a crowd.
But one thing he told struck me. When he asked me about my accident, he said that it was my destiny and many good things will come out of this adversity. That was the time I was speechless. I had never thought that meeting an accident and losing my leg was my destiny. I thought that it was an accident.
Was I really destined to be an amputee? NO. I don't believe so. I think whatever happened was because of somebody's fault, be it anyone like BMC, Driver of that truck or me. It could have been averted. We could have stopped it if we had done our job proficiently. I don't believe in destiny. We humans are smart beings. We know how to do our job, how to face a bad situation or how to come out of adversity. We are what we strive to be, what we really work and imagine to do. If there was any thing called destiny then we would have been like some animal wandering in wild, like scavengers.
If I start believing that this accident was planned and is my destiny then I would have never come out of it, I would still be at home doing nothing (well that is what I am doing now but I dont plan to do it in future).
There are people who think that marrying a loser was their destiny and they cant do anything. Or failing in some subject was written on their cards and how much ever effort they put, it would do them no better. Or whatever they are stuck with, be it in personal or professional life, was destined to happen.
I want to tell all of them that THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS DESTINY. You can change your situation and NOW is the right time. There is nothing in life that is permanent not even life itself. Well change is the only thing that is permanent. You can change everything because only purpose of this life is being happy from inside even with troubles. These adversities will soon leave and the only thing that will remain with you is your nature(Be it positive or -ve) and attitude.
I think that if we all do our job with our heart, then all accidents can be averted. No Air crashes, rail derailment, crashing of buildings or any such accidents. And to quote Mark Twain "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." YES WE CAN CHANGE
But one thing he told struck me. When he asked me about my accident, he said that it was my destiny and many good things will come out of this adversity. That was the time I was speechless. I had never thought that meeting an accident and losing my leg was my destiny. I thought that it was an accident.
Was I really destined to be an amputee? NO. I don't believe so. I think whatever happened was because of somebody's fault, be it anyone like BMC, Driver of that truck or me. It could have been averted. We could have stopped it if we had done our job proficiently. I don't believe in destiny. We humans are smart beings. We know how to do our job, how to face a bad situation or how to come out of adversity. We are what we strive to be, what we really work and imagine to do. If there was any thing called destiny then we would have been like some animal wandering in wild, like scavengers.
If I start believing that this accident was planned and is my destiny then I would have never come out of it, I would still be at home doing nothing (well that is what I am doing now but I dont plan to do it in future).
There are people who think that marrying a loser was their destiny and they cant do anything. Or failing in some subject was written on their cards and how much ever effort they put, it would do them no better. Or whatever they are stuck with, be it in personal or professional life, was destined to happen.
I want to tell all of them that THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS DESTINY. You can change your situation and NOW is the right time. There is nothing in life that is permanent not even life itself. Well change is the only thing that is permanent. You can change everything because only purpose of this life is being happy from inside even with troubles. These adversities will soon leave and the only thing that will remain with you is your nature(Be it positive or -ve) and attitude.
I think that if we all do our job with our heart, then all accidents can be averted. No Air crashes, rail derailment, crashing of buildings or any such accidents. And to quote Mark Twain "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." YES WE CAN CHANGE
Awesome! *respect*
ReplyDeleteits well put..but..i..disagree...i..believe.in..destiny...
ReplyDeleteit..has..all.the..answers
I think destiny is just a word. A word to define something very obvious. No matter what happens in life, in the end there will be people who would say "This was your destiny" and those who believe in destiny will agree. I firmly believe in parallel universe theory. In some other parallel universe our life is different than what it is now. Believing in destiny is kind of an assurance you give yourself when certain things happen. You believe that this was meant to happen and some how it would have, no matter what. Once you accept this, it becomes easier for you to deal with it. When some thing bad happens, we think of innumerable scenarios how we could have avoided it. But when you believe in destiny, you kind of convince yourself that this was eventually going to happen. So dealing with it is easier.
ReplyDeleteP.S My opinion. Open to condradiction.
Only one thing is certain when v r born....that is death...all other things r not known....
ReplyDeleteWhy were u at that place of accident at that time...
Dastagir MF
ReplyDeleteIt is really great that u have overcome the tragedy.....We have started a facebook group for amputees..It is started by Maj. Devender Pal Singh....
http://menshealth.intoday.in/story/devender-pal-singh-kargil-war-pakistan-marathons/0/3688.html
It is a closed group for amputees who have run marathons with prosthesis and also other sports like Neeraj George who is international badminton player
http://www.thehindu.com/sport/other-sports/article2449699.ece
Thanks for all the links, it inspired me.
DeleteCan you also send me the Facebook link of that page?
https://www.facebook.com/groups/thechallengingones/
ReplyDeleteDestiny does play a major part in life and at times it is for the best. You might not realise it now but on the long run there will be upsides to any situation, even the ones that seem like nothing good could ever come of it!
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